21 Questions Because We Go Together Now

If you’re here, you already know that I talk a lot. But if you’re new here, this was designed especially with you in mind. Here are 21 questions I know you want to ask me because, well, you like me a lot.

I’m also the product of Jamaican immigrants, and… I think that tells you a lot as well.

Because who doesn’t love a Zodiac question? Here goes nothing:

  • Sun: Sagittarius
  • Moon: Leo *hides face*
  • Rising/Ascendant: Gemini *peeks between fingers*

… Do with this information what you will.

An elephant, cuz that long-term memory for revenge?? LOL seriously, it’s that regal strength, the meekness that holds them back from the destruction they are so easily able to dish out, and their aptitude for keeping a community together that resonates with who I am at my core.

I deeply love how elephants navigate life with integrity and moral code. And, we really should fear what they are truly capable of. I love everything about an elephant. Including the people-sized poop they leave behind.

The Golden Girls (because picture it…)

The Office (irreverent tomfoolery)

Living Single (evergreen content. Replay value unmatched)

Freedom – I think of the freeing of self from external oppression and engaging what’s important to me. Being able to exist outside restrictions implied by the external world (including patriarchy, heteronormativity, and white supremacy). With individual freedom comes responsibility for collective freedom because the human struggle is interrelated.

In sum: “We have nothing to lose but our chains.”

If I could bippity boppity boo anything, it would be for people to feel allowed to be whatever version of themselves they would explore if they could do so without the judgment of others.

We say that we’re our own worst critics, but the mental health professional in me understands the voice of our inner critic to be someone else’s words. It can be the voice of an unsupportive caregiver, that pastor who yelled that everything you did would most definitely banish you to fire and brimstone, or your 2nd-grade bully, whoever. Often, we weren’t the ones who started writing the hateful script. Unfortunately, some of us never throw that script away, or cannot decipher the difference. 

  • I want to have an experience taking care of elephants
  • Nintendo World in Japan
  • Cultural tour of Ghana. Two things that must happen: getting my hair braided & visiting where the trans-atlantic slave trade took place

Not believing in myself to launch a lot of this stuff sooner. Needing to be super isolated to push myself forward to get to the point of launching “the thing”

Integrity. I make mistakes, and I own up to them. When I have feelings, I’m honest about them, even when I don’t understand them. I’m transparent even when I find it hard to be vulnerable. For this reason, I don’t find it hard to earn trust. Allowing myself to be checked is part of how I maintain integrity. It’s the best way to remain in community with others and to do deep, soul work. It’s intense, but it yields the best outcomes. Try me sometime 🙂

I’d like to be known for helping people feel comfortable telling their truth. The truth pushes healing forward. I also enjoy being told that my authenticity pushes others to examine how truthful they are with themselves. Helping people recognize that commitment to a more truthful course can improve quality of life.

I’d also like to be known for being kind. It’s never my intention to be known as a person without boundaries. But I do want to be known as inherently kind & accessible to most.

I’m wildly pivoting right now, so I’m looking forward to my life looking very different. I want to be in a space where I’m completely in control of the structure of my day-to-day and doing the things that invigorate me. 

Typically, someplace with water. Bonus points if I get on a plane first to take me there. I feel really energized by skipping through the pre-check line, knowing I’m about to be delivered to some place where the beach doesn’t have mystery particles lodged in it.

These days: One where I’ve completed everything on my to-do list. Real talk. Otherwise, Disney World with no children. Sorry to them kids.

Becoming a therapist changed my life, and I never looked back. The profession fuels my need to learn while being able to guide or ”teach” constantly. Multiple aspects of my identity are simultaneously stimulated, and I couldn’t have asked for a better role. I’m still figuring out how to live out that role best, but we will get there.

The second transition point would be launching a podcast and, later, this website. The podcast began me re-prioritizing doing things I enjoy that aren’t guided by someone else’s goals for me. It’s truly soul-sucking for me to end up in situations where I’m living by someone else’s vision and have little to no creative license over how I can execute within it. Currently, I feel alive.

Service-oriented

Straight-forward

Authentic

Empathetic

Engaging

I learned about the power of the pivot from my first (two) grad school failures, which technically weren’t failures, but I quit twice. I was supposed to be “Dr.” Patrice, but circumstances were not right, and I got the hell out of there. No regrets. However, my identity was obliterated because I’d spent years up until that time shaping myself around becoming this thing that I would no longer be. I now found myself in a place of having to reconstruct my entire world and who I was inside of it.

Step 1 was learning that it was indeed not the end of the world. Since then, I’ve reinvented myself a couple more times because I went back to school yet again to change my career to become a therapist. So… things can change, and I can be in control of it instead of feeling like life controlled me without my consent.

What was the hardest part about becoming a therapist? – There are a few things (lol). I’ll list them, and I’d be happy to talk about them either in a podcast episode if that’s highly requested or in a one-off conversation if you shoot me an email and want to talk.

So, for me, it was:

  • Practicing vulnerability in front of others, at first. Hence, I can do it so easily on the podcast now
  • PLAY THERAPY, which made me realize my trauma was a bigger deal than I thought. Because being a “kid” was weird to me
  • Licensure laws and the process overall once you graduate because I’m still going through it, and it’s a lot.

Contact Me, and we’ll make something shake! Let’s chat about what you might have in mind. I’m also working on some services & offerings (coming soon) that’ll be more readily available for collaboration. Stay tuned for that! If you have anything, in particular, you would like to see offered, feel free to let me know!

– 21 questions because we go together now –

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